10 Habits of Remarkably Charismatic People

**Great article we found on Inc.com.**

10 Habits of Remarkably Charismatic People

Charisma isn’t something you have. It’s something you earn. Here’s how.

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Some people instantly make us feel important. Some people instantly make us feel special. Some people light up a room just by walking in.

We can’t always define it, but some people have it: They’re naturally charismatic.

Unfortunately, natural charisma quickly loses its impact. Familiarity breeds, well, familiarity.

But some people are remarkably charismatic: They build and maintain great relationships, consistently influence (in a good way) the people around them, consistently make people feel better about themselves–they’re the kind of people everyone wants to be around… and wants to be.

Fortunately we can, because being remarkably charismatic isn’t about our level of success or our presentation skills or how we dress or the image we project–it’s about what we do.

Here are the 10 habits of remarkably charismatic people:

1. They listen way more than they talk.

Ask questions. Maintain eye contact. Smile. Frown. Nod. Respond–not so much verbally, but non-verbally.

That’s all it takes to show the other person they’re important.

Then when you do speak, don’t offer advice unless you’re asked. Listening shows you care a lot more than offering advice… because when you offer advice in most cases you make the conversation about you, not them.

Don’t believe me? Who is, “Here’s what I would do…” about: You, or the other person?

Only speak when you have something important to say–and always define “important” as what matters to the other person, not to you.

2. They don’t practice selective hearing.

Some people–I guarantee you know people like this–are incapable of hearing anything said by the people they feel are somehow beneath them.

Sure, you speak to them… but that particular falling tree doesn’t make a sound in the forest because there’s no one actually listening.

Remarkably charismatic people listen closely to everyone… and they make all of us, regardless of our position or social status or “level,” feel like we have something in common with them.

Because we do: We’re all people.

3. They put their stuff away.

Don’t check your phone. Don’t glance at your monitor. Don’t focus on anything else, even for a moment.

You can never connect with others if you’re busy connecting with your stuff too.

Give the gift of your full attention. That’s a gift few people give. That gift alone will make others want to be around you… and remember you.

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